- Friends are a big cause of happiness if you can get it right. There is not enough time for all of your friends, so do a friends audit. Expand the time you spend with the best ones, and compress the time you spend with the others, …or possibly even stop seeing some completely.
- Discover that mastery is a road to nowhere. Obsession with being perfect at something takes too much time and you’ll never get there, it’s better to dabble in more things and harvest more happiness
- Goals – Happiness is difficult because we tend to go for the short term rather than long-term, and we tend to go for enjoy rather than achieve, especially if achievement requires doing something right now which we don’t feel like doing. So the answer is to have some projects where you feel you’re making progress.
- Competing or comparing will not make you happy – ignore others and go your own way.
- Get rid of anger. What story are you telling yourself when you get angry? In fact all negative emotions have a perceived pay off which causes you to choose them but which is in fact false
- It’s not about money. Time is what affects your happiness. The cost of earning money out weighs the enjoyment you get from it. Think of the things that have made you happy in the last few weeks – I bet most of them were either free or cheap!
- Either find a job that you enjoy, or find a way to enjoy your job. This could mean leaving or it could mean slowly moving your circle towards the way you want to your job to be. Not easy, but important!
- Happiness comes from coming out of one’s comfort zone, so it’s important to find a way to push yourself out of your comfort zone occasionally. What have you done recently all got planned for the future?
- Get the basics right, exercise and sleep
- Say no to more things. This is a double benefit, you get rid of bad things but also you get more time for the good things.
FOG LOG LEG PEG PEN ZEN = 6
FOG DOG DIG DIN DEN ZEN = 6
FOG FIG FIN FEN ZEN = 5